Growing up we were surrounded with people sharing the same last name. Our church district had 28 families and there were six different last names. So as you can imagine when talking about someone we used their first name. And talking about a family was always referred to by the husbands first name followed by an "s" The Robert Yoder family was never referred to as Mr. and Mrs. Yoder or the Yoders because there were multiple other Yoder families. Therefore they were referred to as Roberts. When talking about Robert's wife we would never say Mrs. Yoder she was always Robert Naomi.
This is one of the hardest things for me to change since we left the Amish. To me a family still sounds better when referred to by the husbands first name.
Soon after we left we were invited to a family after church services. When we arrived everyone introduced themselves and then they informed our children they can call them Mr. and Mrs. __________ We felt a little flummoxed but ever since that day we have been trying to teach our children to address married people as Mr. and Mrs. So far it's been a hit and miss deal because when my husband and I talk about someone we still go back to using their first name.
So my question is. Is this really a big deal every where or just in the area where we live right now? We don't want to offend anyone, but somehow it just doesn't feel real when we put a bunch of Mr. and Mrs. into our conversation. And by the way I still have not learned to not cringe when someone calls me Mrs. Kinsinger. I would much rather hear my name.