The Amish language does not include a word for love.
As a child I was never told I was loved, and neither did my parents ever give me a hug. It wasn't that they didn't love me, it was simply that the Amish do not publicly display love in any form.
I never doubted that I was loved, I could tell that they found joy being with their children. We did everything together, working, playing, reading, laughing, talking. To my mother especially we were everything to her and her life revolved around her family.
If I had a choice, never hearing the words "I love you" and never receiving a hug, but still have the relationship and the joy of spending time together like my mother and I did, or hearing I love you a lot, but going our separate ways. I would choose the first. Living a life of love, does not make a child feel unloved even if they never hear the actual words.
I can't imagine not telling my children I love them, and to me those little arms being thrown around me in a bear hug will be memories I will treasure long after they are grown. I still enjoy spending time with my children in much the same way as my mother spent time with me.
Had we remained Amish I know things would be different, there would be no hugs, no words saying "I love you," but the love I have for my children would be the same and I know they would know I love them.