Thank-you so much for all the kind words we received via comments and personal emails on the previous post.
The question was asked after someone saw the latest episode of Amish: Out of Order on Nat Geo where Mose was saying that the Amish don't talk about the deceased after the funeral and they wondered why the Amish would react that way.
I had never even heard of something like that before. When my Grandpa passed away we still enjoyed the memories he left behind. As the first year anniversary of his passing approached all his children and grand children contributed to a little project where we each wrote some of our favorite memories of him on little pieces of paper and put them in a gallon jar that we had hand painted and labeled; Jar of Memories. We presented it to Grandma on that anniversary day. We all enjoyed reading each other's memories and talking about the special man he was.
While we didn't always create a jar of memories we certainly didn't shy away from talking about anyone who was no longer with us. For those that had been faithful to the Amish the focus was on good and happy memories. Unfortunately for those who had left, they were often held as examples in church where ministers would warn against making foolish choices and squandering the chance of grace and repentance.