Monday, April 19, 2010

Changes

Life is all about changes. And right now we are once again going through some pretty big ones. I find them both exciting and scary. I don't particularly welcome changes, I'm more of homebody type of person who likes to have a comfortable little routine. I like to have my house a relaxing haven from the rest of the world.

This does not represent a change that I enjoy. I don't enjoy moving, the packing process is wearisome and the unpacking part isn't much better. There are always a few "helpful" people who want to help pack until they discover empty canning jars aren't all that entertaining and really don't provide a lot of juicy fodder for conversations later on.

My husband is a logger but plans to quit when we move. This is something I'm very glad to change. I don't spend a lot of time worrying but every once in a while something happens that reminds us of how very dangerous his job really is.

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I hope you can all be patient with me as I try to find a few minutes here and there to blog a little bit, as you can imagine my time at the computer is more limited than it used to be.

Monday, April 12, 2010

Thank-you

After reading all your answers we have come to the conclusion that we will continue to teach  our children to use Mr. and Mrs. when talking about or to our non-Amish friends. Maybe with some more practise it will come to feel like the proper way, and hopefully it will make it easier for our children if they ever have a family of their own.

I find it very interesting how different cultures have there own ways of determining what is acceptable and what isn't. For example: The community my husband and I were raised in, it was considered highly improper for men and women to visit with each other if they weren't related. And children did not address or start a conversation with grown ups.

When we moved to this area we soon learned that there those guidelines of conduct were unheard of and I found it very annoying when children came to talk to me and ask me to hold Sunbeam, who at that time was only several weeks old. There were many other things but they can wait to be discussed until a later date.

Thanks again to everyone who took the time to answer my question.

Saturday, April 10, 2010

Question

Growing up we were surrounded with people sharing the same last name. Our church district had 28 families and there were six different last names. So as you can imagine when talking about someone we used their first name. And talking about a family was always referred to by the husbands first name followed by an "s" The Robert Yoder family was never referred to as Mr. and Mrs. Yoder or the Yoders because there were multiple other Yoder families. Therefore they were referred to as Roberts. When talking about Robert's wife we would never say Mrs. Yoder  she was always Robert Naomi.

This is one of the hardest things for me to change since we left the Amish. To me a family still sounds better when referred to by the husbands first name.

Soon after we left we were invited to a family after church services. When we arrived everyone introduced themselves and then they informed our children they can call them Mr. and Mrs. __________  We felt a little flummoxed but ever since that day we have been trying to teach our children to address married people as Mr. and Mrs.  So far it's been a hit and miss deal because when my husband and I talk about someone we still go back to using their first name.

So my question is. Is this really a big deal every where or just in the area where we live right now?  We don't want to offend anyone, but somehow it just doesn't feel real when we put a bunch of Mr. and Mrs. into our conversation.  And by the way I still have not learned to not cringe when someone calls me Mrs. Kinsinger. I would much rather hear my name.

Thursday, April 8, 2010

A Knock on the Door

Recently there seems to have been a lot of people dropping by unannounced. My heart does weird things as I make a helpless sweep with my eyes over the rooms I pass through to get to the door to see who is there. I find it rather strange how a room that seemed happy and comfortable mere seconds earlier suddenly looks glaringly cluttered.

It is rather interesting to see what the people standing on the other side of the door want. There will be the occasional salesman which until recently I was always able to firmly and kindly send them on their way. The Gourmet Foods salesman was successful only because he spread all his wares out on the front yard and I was really hungry. Next time that won't work though.

I discovered yesterday it isn't safe to wash my hair in the middle of the day. The results of stepping outside with long wet hair on a very windy day isn't pretty. The amusement on the face of the person who had stopped by with several questions didn't help.

But there is one knock that I answered that I will probably remember for years because it was so different from any others I had ever experienced.

I opened the door to find a short man wearing glasses standing there with his hand raised ready to knock again. He quickly lowered his hand and in answer to my Hello asked. "Ma'am have you planned your funeral already?"  It took every fiber in my being to keep me from slamming the door right in his face. He must have noticed that he gave me quite a stir, because he added that he works at the local funeral home and he was wondering if we already have made funeral arrangements if we should happen to die. I told him I am really not in the postion to make those plans with him right now. He bobbed his head and stammered a little and then turned around and left.

I closed the door, and suddenly it all became so funny. The creepy little guy, his weird inquiry. I could hardly wait for my husband to get home to tell him about it.

And just incase you work at a funeral home that is looking for more business. It is not the best idea to have "Have you planned your funeral already" the first words out of your mouth when someone answers their door. You just might get hurt.

Saturday, April 3, 2010

The Winners

Time to draw the winners for the "Success Made Simple" book giveaway.


Cherie said       

I think it is great that you have found some books that accurately portray the Amish and what life is like.


There is a made for TV movie that is coming on soon - or it may have already aired about the shooting in the Amish school a few years ago. I don't know if I want to watch. Have you heard of it? Just wondering.

I love all the new flowers that spring brings and the beautiful "popcorn" on the trees!

Hope you have a wonderful Easter.

Congratulations Cherie! If you email with your address I will get this book shipped to you.  And yes I have heard of the movie "Amish Grace" and from the little bit I listened too I found it too unrealistic to enjoy.


Winner 2 is.....


Legends Wife said

Walking and seeing God's creation as spring begins:)

Congratulations! Please email me with your address and I will send your book.


Thanks again to everyone who entered this giveaway. I'm sorry I don't have a book for everyone but if anyone else would like to have a copy of this book you can visit amishbusinessbook.com


Hope everyone has a happy Easter!