The girls and I were busy yesterday and by the time three o'clock rolled around we were in need of a snack and a break. Some freshly diced mangos and cottage cheese was perfect for the snack part, and then we decided to watch the newest episode of the Duggars while we relaxed and ate.
I don't know why we continue watching the show. It has so many moments that make me cringe, and yet still we continue recording and watching. Yes, it's clean, wholesome etc., but the cringe factor outweighs the enjoyment factor for me.
Yesterday we saw Ben and Jessa's anniversary, among other things, but it was their part I'll be talking about.
To celebrate, Jessa left her two little ones at home with Ben and went off to join her sisters to have their nails done. While she was gone Ben cooked a celebratory meal for her. After she got home and they ate, he gave her a necklace he had designed special for their third anniversary.
What did Jessa do for Ben? Nothing.
It's not just Ben and Jessa though. I have seen and heard often how women want their men to do special things for their anniversary. How their feelings were hurt if he forgot or did nothing, though they didn't do anything either.
I don't understand it. Maybe it's my Amish background that is making that I can't wrap my mind around it, or maybe there's a perfectly good reason that I have never had explained to me.
A wedding anniversary is about two people, right? Both husband and wife got married on their wedding day. Why aren't women spoiling their husband on their anniversary? Why is it all about the women?
To me anniversaries are a joint celebration. Either we both do something, or we both do nothing "together".