I recently received this comment on one of my oldest posts:
I do not mean to be rude...just I cannot ask any Amish because there are none in
You write so positively about your childhood - are you still
allowed to speak to your family after leaving the Amish? No offense
meant. ~ Andrea
Yes, I can still speak to my family. Our relationship has changed from what it was before we left the Amish, but that doesn't mean we can't have contact with each other.
It is harder to find topics for conversation since they no longer want to share a lot of things that happen in their community because a lot of that is reserved for only discussion among Amish church members. At the same time I have to watch what I say because a lot of our life now involves things they don't approve of. For example: what we did during the recent power outage, because that would remind them we have electricity. Activities in our church, because Amish don't participate in activities like that. How I went here or there, because they would be reminded how I now drive a vehicle.
They live in another state so we don't get to see each other often. How ever when my Grandma passed away they allowed us to spend the night at their house before the funeral. And a little over a year ago my Mom came to visit for two wonderful days where we enjoyed each others company to the fullest. Even while avoiding touchy subjects.
They still feel the occasional need to try to convince us how wrong our choice was to leave the Amish, but after they get that obligatory piece out of their system the rest of our visit can be very pleasant.