tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post3192047788834699535..comments2024-03-03T22:03:05.210-05:00Comments on A Joyful Chaos: What is a Big Family?A Joyful Chaoshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13647481484192797931noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-3018088653027431742017-03-24T05:53:23.157-04:002017-03-24T05:53:23.157-04:00Hello from France! I'm discovering your blog a...Hello from France! I'm discovering your blog and I really love it! I'm reacting to this "children" topic as I am expecting my 4th blessing from the Lord myself and there are indeed some strange comments that can hurt. A family of 4 children can be seen as a very large one, here in France; which is a shame: shouldn't people rejoice for a new baby? Whether he or she is number Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-89746173238293336022015-06-24T06:32:26.500-04:002015-06-24T06:32:26.500-04:00It is hard to change the views we created while gr...It is hard to change the views we created while growing up, especially when they were drilled into us.A Joyful Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13647481484192797931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-70416028724732226572015-06-24T06:31:18.308-04:002015-06-24T06:31:18.308-04:00I'm sorry you have had to deal with hurtful co...I'm sorry you have had to deal with hurtful comments. I wish people could learn to mind their own business. Even well meaning comments can hurt.A Joyful Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13647481484192797931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-45005035749152247882015-06-24T06:29:05.693-04:002015-06-24T06:29:05.693-04:00You're right. It's all perspective and wha...You're right. It's all perspective and what you're used to. That is funny though that someone with four children would think your family of five is big. :)A Joyful Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13647481484192797931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-89640443196144102942015-06-24T06:27:25.446-04:002015-06-24T06:27:25.446-04:00Your children are blessed to have a mother that co...Your children are blessed to have a mother that considers them to be blessings!A Joyful Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13647481484192797931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-7498891929495361602015-06-24T06:25:34.957-04:002015-06-24T06:25:34.957-04:00Exactly! Exactly! A Joyful Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13647481484192797931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-19506510283434899072015-06-24T06:24:55.037-04:002015-06-24T06:24:55.037-04:00They are a blessing!They are a blessing!A Joyful Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13647481484192797931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-74670468774983790472015-06-24T06:24:33.079-04:002015-06-24T06:24:33.079-04:00Flabbergasted is a good way to describe how I felt...Flabbergasted is a good way to describe how I felt. She probably didn't realize how she sounded.A Joyful Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13647481484192797931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-36491542136947646152015-06-24T06:23:00.553-04:002015-06-24T06:23:00.553-04:00Getting them all at one time would be hard, but la...Getting them all at one time would be hard, but large families usually add only one or two at a time and with each addition you can't imagine going back to the previous size. A Joyful Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13647481484192797931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-80492562051833519262015-06-24T06:21:11.453-04:002015-06-24T06:21:11.453-04:00I agree that it's never funny or okay!I agree that it's never funny or okay! A Joyful Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13647481484192797931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-48647052397872831612015-06-24T06:18:57.186-04:002015-06-24T06:18:57.186-04:00Sorry to hear you have those regrets. Sorry to hear you have those regrets. A Joyful Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13647481484192797931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-59984260961618458122015-06-23T21:31:28.715-04:002015-06-23T21:31:28.715-04:00Coming from the opposite perspective, due to eleve...Coming from the opposite perspective, due to eleven years of infertility, we were blessed with one adorable little boy. People can be extremely hurtful and jump to all sort of conclusions (we're selfish, materialistic...) about my sweet little family. I have also dealt with many people who seem to think children are the "only" blessing from God and therefore look at me with greatHannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16620142952809712068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-16122064177837789642015-06-22T19:17:22.713-04:002015-06-22T19:17:22.713-04:00I think perspective has a lot to do with comments....I think perspective has a lot to do with comments. Sometimes, people feel that large families are okay, but the children should be spaced out with several years between each child. A woman at a church once introduced my sister (who had four children) and I (who had 5 children at the time) to her mother. The woman commented that we had "ALL those children." I considered her comment Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11171063087193671797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-59978035465041947802015-06-22T16:35:15.727-04:002015-06-22T16:35:15.727-04:00I wish I wasn't surprised by that comment but ...I wish I wasn't surprised by that comment but unfortunately I'm not. We had three children and wanted many more but having had a hysterectomy at a young age it wasn't possible. Even with just three, people commented that two should have been enough. I love my children dearly and consider them blessings from the Lord. If he had blessed us with 20 more we would have found a way to Betsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00807691752817225336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-981695218260667032015-06-21T14:36:11.297-04:002015-06-21T14:36:11.297-04:00A lot of comments come from a person's childho...A lot of comments come from a person's childhood. My sister and I had ZPG (Zero Population Growth) pounded into us from the time we were able to stand up. Hubby and I are a blended family, and I often feel that I must explain why we have three children. When I see a "large" family, my first thought is "Dear Heaven, what are they *thinking*!" It's not right of me, as Lady Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10608765381189723792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-48334885435563898642015-06-21T13:28:54.896-04:002015-06-21T13:28:54.896-04:00I wish people would learn not to comment on other ...I wish people would learn not to comment on other people's personal lives. <br /><br />I also don't think 4 is a particularly big family - my mother was one of 9 and I was the eldest of 6. But what I think is "big" or "small" is relevant only to me. <br /><br />It's not only comments about a large family that are rude and can be hurtful. What about "Clisbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05744793549029118738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-7210955503511955272015-06-21T13:28:30.148-04:002015-06-21T13:28:30.148-04:00I wish people would learn not to comment on other ...I wish people would learn not to comment on other people's personal lives. <br /><br />I also don't think 4 is a particularly big family - my mother was one of 9 and I was the eldest of 6. But what I think is "big" or "small" is relevant only to me. <br /><br />It's not only comments about a large family that are rude and can be hurtful. What about "Clisbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05744793549029118738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-33725252921024967692015-06-20T17:36:16.047-04:002015-06-20T17:36:16.047-04:00People are funny. Having only 7 myself, I underst...People are funny. Having only 7 myself, I understand, they are such a blessing.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14849066626681180280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-90554358329992394242015-06-20T16:27:00.277-04:002015-06-20T16:27:00.277-04:00I was not there, so I can't be sure, but I kin...I was not there, so I can't be sure, but I kind of wonder if she really meant what she said. I have known and loved some people who lack tact yet seem to be quite opinionated. Never meaning to hurt anyone, but just so caught up in their own opinions they don't realize they might offend or hurt. I am not trying to make excuses for this person, but saying I have seen a type of person whojoaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786607020220841570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-5276643920014209612015-06-20T10:14:19.042-04:002015-06-20T10:14:19.042-04:00I used to know a farmer who had 19 children and hi...I used to know a farmer who had 19 children and his eldest was hoping to have more. I must say I don't know how people cope with so many littlies. Easier when they start to grow up I suppose.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14087140585742801854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-70637835246608785042015-06-20T07:55:27.032-04:002015-06-20T07:55:27.032-04:00As a mother of 14 children I have heard many comme...As a mother of 14 children I have heard many comments. I try to be kind to comments even when they are rude. But many times my heart breaks because I realize how society views children as a burden. Even more hurtful are friends who think they are funny and it is okay making a wise crack about the size of our family. I thank the Lord for grace to hold my tongue, because it is never funny or okay.Momma Chilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06843128486114976215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-68090116405598887452015-06-19T19:12:19.610-04:002015-06-19T19:12:19.610-04:00As time goes on I wish I hadn't been afraid of...As time goes on I wish I hadn't been afraid of not having enough money or being too young to have children. Now that time is running out I wish I had more than 2. Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07482404882449015739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-86064015850000154942015-06-19T18:20:26.388-04:002015-06-19T18:20:26.388-04:00I scarcely know what to do with an empty house. Ev...I scarcely know what to do with an empty house. Even cleaning seems weird.<br />Marthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15293816902877287168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-60554505461923627802015-06-19T17:03:25.480-04:002015-06-19T17:03:25.480-04:00I agree, some people need to learn to be kind, fri...I agree, some people need to learn to be kind, friendly, and supportive no matter what the family size. Whether there are zero children or more than a dozen, it's really no one else's business.<br />Oh, and feel free to leave your opinions anytime. :)A Joyful Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13647481484192797931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1260159263783917143.post-24708427117054220752015-06-19T16:58:19.239-04:002015-06-19T16:58:19.239-04:00A house full of love. :)A house full of love. :)A Joyful Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13647481484192797931noreply@blogger.com